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I feel so out of control. I am envisioning my new life, relatively joyless, sexless, lonely, and isolated. And all of this angst and sadness is being experienced in secret.

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Part of me wonders if I am even entitled to any of this grief, that maybe I deserve this for being an adulterer. Anonymous Newton, Massachusetts Dear Anonymous, What strikes me most in your letter is the contradiction between the joy you say your lover brings you and your description of how he treats chst.

Instead of seeing his behavior for what it is—manipulative, menacing, controlling, and cruel—you seem to idealize your znd as the source of your happiness, which indicates to me that your distorted ideas about love and connection have deep roots. Meanwhile, in your marriage, as in many marriages that lack physical intimacy, what you see reflected back to you is likely the opposite: You feel invisible, undesired, and unheard when it comes to your wants and needs.

Asit takes form in the mirror our parents hold up an us. Do they delight in our presence? Do they see our beauty?

Do they respond to our wants and needs? Do we matter to them? If so, an image of ourselves as worthy and lovable is reflected back to us, and we begin to integrate it into a positive self-image.

Children who lack this reflection experience heartbreak and grieve alone, because the adults they would normally share their inner worlds znd are the very people they feel hurt by. As adults, many of them end up in marriages that resemble their childhood. Perhaps without realizing it, you sought out what felt familiar to you from your childhood—the pain of feeling helpless and alone.

Early on, when the sexual problems became apparent, how did you and your husband talk about them? Will you actually like them?

And, of course, what are their intentions? If you share their intentions, that's fantastic! But if, on the other hand, you are hoping it will lead to something more serious, then it's important to be able to ahd up on the subtle — and not so subtle — s that they want this date to lead to one place only in as near a future as possible : The bedroom.

The same holds true if you're only looking to hook up, because it's good to know leadss you're on the same. To help spot the s, I reached out the experts for their advice on what behaviors you'll notice in someone you're on a date with that tell you their goal is just sex.

Next time you're out with someone and you're not totally sure what their intentions are, here is how the experts say you'll know. They don't really listen when you talk.

NYC relationship expert and love coach Susan Winter seconds that, adding a lack of patience whenever you start speaking is another red flag. They talk about sex constantly. Giphy It's not just about what your date won't talk about, it's also what they do have to say.

They invite you to their place for your first date.

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